TRAINING MANUAL FOR PERVIEW COACHES

Vibrations in Embodied Restorying: Coaching Questions for the 7 Steps of P.E.R. and V.I.E.W. Transformation

David Boje and Grace Ann Rosile Founders of PerView March 28, 2025

INTRODUCTION

This manual is designed to train PerView coaches in conducting powerful, transformative sessions with veterans, first responders, and their families. It provides deep, actionable coaching questions and sample dialogues based on:

• P.E.R.: Processes of Embodied Restorying (Characterize, Externalize, Sympathize, Revise, Strategize, Rehistoricize, Publicize)

• V.I.E.W.: Vibrations In Embodied Waves (Vibrations, In, Embodied, Restorying)

• Genius Unlocked's Root Cause Coaching Method

Each section contains:

• 10+ coaching questions

• Sample dialogues

• Reflections for sand tray and equine-assisted sessions

🌱 What Makes PerView Coaching Unique?

— As offered through the lens of PER Processes of Embodied Restorying and VIEW Vibrations In Energy Waves, PERVIEW is Unique Method of Coaching that is Not Therapy

1. Coaching vs. Therapy

Therapy looks back to heal trauma.
Coaching looks forward to create possibility.

Dr. David Boje and Dr. Grace Ann Rosile are not licensed therapists. If you are in therapy, you will need a note from doctor. David and Grace Ann are coaches, business educators, and family facilitators of the processes of embodied restorying (PER) and co-founders of the Quantum Storytelling Conference to change your VIEW (Vibrations In Energy Waves) at an embodied level of transformation.  David and Grace Ann have their Ph.D.s in the fields of organizational storytelling, narrative methods, and they have training in equine-facilitated coaching work. They train both coaches and therapists in trauma-informed horsesense methods rooted in depth, ethics, and lived practice of inter-species communication.

At PerView, David and Grace Ann offer trauma-informed coaching — a healing-centered, non-clinical path that honors personal story, resilience, and practical change. They work with therapists, if and when they are needed.

HorseSense Embodiment    Horses Helping Heroes Heal

PERVIEW Healing Visual Gallery

Stories of trauma recovery and transformation through horses, coaching, and restorying

Your Next Mission: A PERVIEW Career in Healing 

At PerView, we train and certify those who have served to launch their own coaching businesses, helping fellow veterans and first responders break free from stuck stories—the ones filled with pain, shame, anger, and disconnection.

• Comprehensive Coaching Certification in Two Years: Gain the skills to guide others through trauma and transformation.

• Personal and Professional Growth in First Year: Reclaim your own story while building a sustainable business.

• Proven PerView Business Coaching Method: Work with your own community as change-makers, using tools that rewrite past narratives and create lasting impact.

Are you ready to lead once more?

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THE PER in PERVIEW: PROCESSES for EMBODIED RESTORYING are 7 Steps that Will Change Your Life

1. Characterize

“Feel it. Name it. Let it have shape.”
Begin by identifying the felt sense of your experience. Tune into your body, your breath, your reactions. What’s arising? Give it a name, a texture, a shape. This is not about fixing—it’s about noticing. Let the story surface as sensation, image, or emotion.

2. Externalize

“It’s not you, it’s a story you’re carrying.”
Create distance. Imagine placing the story in front of you rather than inside you. It’s not your identity—it’s a narrative, inherited or learned. This step invites compassion and opens the door for transformation by recognizing, “I am not my trauma—I am the storyteller now.”

3. Sympathize

“Allow tenderness. Even toward the hardest parts.”
Offer empathy to yourself and even to the parts of the story that feel unbearable. Without sympathy, the story remains frozen. With it, we soften, grieve, and open space for integration. You don’t have to like the story—but you can feel with it, and through it.

4. Revise

“Shift the lens. Choose a different path forward.”
Now that you’ve honored the old story, ask: What else could be true? How would the story shift if you were the hero, not the victim? Revision isn’t denial—it’s evolution. It’s taking back authorship with conscious intention.

5. Strategize

“Put your new story into practice. Daily. Consciously.”
Live the new narrative. What actions align with this revision? What rituals, boundaries, or habits support your becoming? Strategies root the story into your nervous system, relationships, and routines. Practice is where the story grows.

6. Rehistoricize

“Reweave the past in light of who you are now.”
Look back from the eyes of your current self. What meaning can be transformed? What once felt like a curse might now reveal itself as a calling. Rehistoricizing doesn’t change the facts—but it changes what the facts mean.

7. Publicize

“Speak your truth. Let others witness your becoming.”
Restorying isn’t complete until it’s shared. Let others hear your transformation. Whether through art, voice, movement, or presence—publicizing affirms, “I’m here. I’ve changed. And I matter.” Witnessing makes the healing communal.

The VIEW in PERVIEW – Vibrations In Energy Waves

Change your View. Your Energy is Embodied Vibrations Waves. Your emotion embodiment refers to the experience and expression of your VIEW throughout yoru body.rAs you begin recognizing that emotions are not just mental states but also felt physically in Energy Waves that influence our physical sensations and behaviors, the Observe Effect of Quantum Physics becomes a path to health and well being. 

Here's a more detailed explanation:

• Physical Manifestation:

  Emotions are not solely mental; they have a physical presence in the body as your VIEW, Vibrations In Energy Waves that are influencing everything from heart rate and breathing to posture and muscle tension. 

• Understanding Emotions Through the Body at a Cellular Level:

  Your body is 37.2 trillion living cells. To VIEW your cellular living Embodiment emphasizes the importance of paying attention to the physical sensations associated with emotions, allowing for a deeper understanding of our emotional experiences at a quantum level.

• Emotional Energy Regulation:

  By becoming more aware of the body's living cellular response to emotions, we can develop better strategies for managing and regulating our emotional experiences by applying the 7 Embodied Restorying Steps developed by David Boje and Grace Ann Rosile. 

• PERVIEW is the Connection of your Ture Self to Others:

  PERVIEW coaching in Awareness of Energy Emotional Embodiment fosters a deeper connection to one’s true authentic self and others. As we become more energetically attuned to our own emotions and the emotions of those around us, that embodiment awakens our spirit. 

• Examples:

  For instance, sadness might feel like a heaviness in the chest, while anger can manifest as a tightening in the muscles or a rise in heart rate. By feeling into the old memories and noticing how their body reacts, individuals can begin to reframe those stories with the wisdom of the present body. This brings healing across generations—through muscle memory and cellular shifts.

Comparison: Civilian vs. Military/Veteran Divorce Rates (U.S.)

*Note: The active-duty annual divorce rate (~3%) may seem low, but long-term cumulative divorce rates often rise significantly after separation from service.

💔 In Summary

1. Female veterans are the most affected: their divorce rate is estimated to be 50–100% higher than female civilians.

1. Military families also show early divorce spikes—within the first 5 years of marriage, particularly around or after deployments.

Why Horses? Why Now?

PerView isn’t just about coaching. It’s about deep, embodied healing.

Through our partnership with Horse Sense at Work, we integrate equine-assisted coaching, where the wisdom of horses helps break through barriers no words can touch. Horses teach presence, trust, and emotional honesty—essentials for healing and transformation.

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Next Please Study Review of Equine-Assisted Coaching in Conjunction with PerView Narrative Restorying. 

🐎 Healing PTSD with Horses

Founded by David Boje, a Vietnam veteran who transformed his own journey through PTSD, cancer, and personal struggles into a mission of healing and empowerment. Together with Grace Ann Rosile, they integrate equine-assisted therapy into the PerView Coaching Method, offering a unique and effective approach to personal transformation. 

Dr. David Boje and Dr. Grace Ann Rosile are not licensed therapists. They are coaches, educators, and facilitators of embodied restorying. With Ph.D.s and decades of experience in organizational storytelling, narrative methods, and equine-facilitated work, they train both coaches and therapists in trauma-informed methods rooted in depth, ethics, and lived practice.

STEP 1. CHARACTERIZE

Goal: Elicit the presenting problem as a felt story/image/emotion

Coaching Questions:

1. What is the story you keep telling yourself?

2. Where do you feel it in your body?

3. If this issue were an object in the sand tray, what would it be?

4. How would a horse respond to this story’s energy?

5. What emotion rises when you say it out loud?

6. What words describe the mood of this story?

7. What’s the weather pattern of this moment in your life?

8. When you’re in this moment, are you in Cause or Effect?

9. What thoughts follow this emotion?

10. What behavior do you notice when this story activates?

Sample Dialogue:

Coach: “When you place this in the sand, what figure represents this moment?” Client: “This broken soldier toy.”Coach: “And if you were that figure, what would you be feeling?” Client: “Shame. And small.” Coach: “What thought echoes with that?” Client: “That I failed.”

STEP 2. EXTERNALIZE

Goal: Gain perspective by distancing from the problem

Coaching Questions:

1. What happens when you step outside the story?

2. How old is the version of you that this happened to?

3. If your story was a character, what would they be called?

4. What does your body do when it watches the story instead of reliving it?

5. What do you learn when you see it from above?

6. If the horse were narrating this, what would it say?

7. What is true now that wasn’t true then?

8. What judgments can you release about yourself in this story?

9. What are you protecting yourself from?

10. Who benefits if you keep this story locked away?

Sample Dialogue:

Coach: “Can you see yourself in that memory, as if watching a film?” Client: “Yes. I look scared.” Coach: “And how does that version of you need to be met?” Client: “With safety. I never had that.”

STEP 3. SYMPATHIZE

Goal: Develop compassion and uncover unmet needs

Coaching Questions:

1. What did you need that you didn’t get?

2. What qualities did you suppress to survive?

3. What did your inner child long for?

4. Who failed to protect you?

5. If your horse could speak, what would it say you needed then?

6. Can you offer that version of you love now?

7. What emotion is underneath the anger?

8. Who do you still hope will apologize?

9. What need are you still chasing through current behaviors?

10. What becomes possible when you forgive yourself?

Sample Dialogue:

Coach: “When you look into the horse’s eyes, what do they reflect back?” Client: “That I’ve always deserved love.”Coach: “Even back then?” Client: “Especially back then.”

STEP 4. REVISE

Goal: Reframe the story from power and possibility

Coaching Questions:

1. What’s another way to interpret that experience?

2. What strength did you develop because of it?

3. If you could rewrite the story’s ending, what would change?

4. What would a healed you say to the younger you?

5. What spiritual lesson can you draw from that chapter?

6. What qualities are emerging in you now?

7. What beliefs are you willing to let go of?

8. What is the gift inside this pain?

9. If you stood in your truth, how would the story shift?

10. What would your horse say about who you are now?

Sample Dialogue:

Coach: “You’ve carried this belief that you are a burden. What’s the truth?” Client: “That I protected everyone. I was the strong one.”

STEP 5. STRATEGIZE

Goal: Identify actions and mindset aligned with the revised story

Coaching Questions:

1. What new action reflects your healing?

2. What energy will you bring into your next conversation?

3. What does your body need to feel safe moving forward?

4. What boundary supports your new story?

5. What would a wise elder version of you do now?

6. What daily ritual can anchor your new belief?

7. What symbol will remind you of your strength?

8. What is one small win you can claim today?

9. Who can support this version of you?

10. What can you commit to this week that feels empowering?

Sample Dialogue:

Coach: “What’s a strategy to not return to the old role of silence?” Client: “Speaking honestly with my wife. Even when I’m afraid.”

STEP 6. REHISTORICIZE

Goal: Contextualize the old story within the lineage and broader life pattern

Coaching Questions:

1. Where else has this pattern shown up?

2. Was this your wound, or one passed down?

3. What generational story does this mirror?

4. Who else in your family carried this pain?

5. If this pattern could end with you, what would it take?

6. What has your family never been allowed to talk about?

7. How might healing this affect your children?

8. What systemic forces shaped your story?

9. How can you honor your ancestors without repeating them?

10. What becomes possible when the legacy changes?

Sample Dialogue:

Coach: “Is this belief ‘I must do it all alone’ yours?” Client: “It’s my father’s. And his father’s.” Coach: “What if it ends with you?” Client: “Then I free my sons too.”

STEP 7. PUBLICIZE

Goal: Share the new story and integrate it into life

Coaching Questions:

1. What is your new story?

2. Who needs to hear it?

3. What will it feel like to speak it aloud?

4. What platform or format empowers your truth? (Art, speech, letter?)

5. What fear arises when you imagine sharing it?

6. What becomes possible when you’re seen?

7. What role can you model for others?

8. What does your community need to hear from you?

9. What are you planting for the next generation?

10. What identity are you claiming now?

Sample Dialogue:

Coach: “If this story had a title, what would it be?” Client: “From Silence to Song.”

QUANTUM STORYTELLING – V.I.E.W.

V: Vibrations

1. What frequency are you operating on today?

2. What vibration does your body emit when telling this story?

3. What lifts your energy naturally?

4. What words raise your vibration?

5. What does your horse tune into when near you?

6. What lowers your frequency without fail?

7. What music matches your healing journey?

8. How can you shift your energy before difficult conversations?

9. Where does joy vibrate in your body?

10. What rituals amplify your resonance?

I: In

1. What’s happening in you right now?

2. What do you feel but haven’t named?

3. What’s the truth you’re afraid to go in to?

4. What sensations arise in stillness?

5. What part of you wants to speak?

6. What lives in your chest when you breathe slowly?

7. What’s alive in your belly, your back, your shoulders?

8. What does your heart say when you get quiet?

9. What internal voice needs to be heard?

10. What is whispering beneath your silence?

E: Embodied

1. What posture does your story take?

2. Where is tension stored?

3. How do you walk when you believe your truth?

4. What movement feels like freedom?

5. What gesture do you want to make to release?

6. How does your horse respond to your breath?

7. What does your nervous system need to regulate?

8. What embodied practice brings you back home?

9. How do you stand when you know you belong?

10. What is your body asking for right now?

W: Restorying

1. What’s the old narrative?

2. What part of it is ready to die?

3. What are you reclaiming?

4. What role are you stepping into?

5. What myth or archetype supports your growth?

6. What does your new story sound like?

7. What image expresses your transformation?

8. How will you live the new version today?

9. What is being born through you?

10. What legacy are you creating?

Closing Blessing You are not just coaching a client—you are activating a healing field. Let the horse be your co-facilitator, let the sand carry the weight of the unspoken, and let your words, like seeds, fall into fertile ground.

Why PERVIEW is a Movement?

Every day, veterans, first responders, and their families face the hidden wounds of trauma. Traditional therapy often forces individuals to relive their worst experiences—sometimes making the trauma worse, not better.

For decades, trauma treatments have centered on RED (Repeated Exposure Therapy)—reliving the past over and over in hopes that the mind will dull its pain is not the best approach. It doesn’t work for everyone.Our alternative is PER-VIEW. It offers a different approach: one rooted in storytelling, quantum resonance, and embodied healing. Instead of forcing people to revisit their worst moments, we invite them to create new narratives—ones infused with safety, resilience, and connection.

That’s why Dr. David Boje and Dr. Grace Ann Rosile created PERVIEW—a groundbreaking, gentle-touch coaching method based on storytelling, vibrational energy, and somatic healing. With equine-assisted therapy, embodied restorying, and VIEW (Vibrations In Energy Waves), we are helping people reclaim their lives without reliving the past emotional trauma again and again.

Now, we need your help to bring this trauma-healing movement to the people who need it most.

 🧒👨‍✈️ A veteran and child in quiet sand tray connection

Silent Meditation about Sandtray and working with Horses





🚒🐎 An army veteran and wise horse in silent, sacred presence




🚒🐎 A firefighter and wise horse in silent, sacred presence



 🌳🌀 A gentle coaching session, Wife and Husband, reconnecting beneath the open sky




🌳🌀 A gentle Perview coaching session with veterans, family members, and horses beneath the open sky


Each image is a doorway, a ripple, a new breath in the PERVIEW movement.

A Veteran’s Truth

I see you.

I know the weight you carry, the ghosts that wake you at 2 a.m., the way anger feels safer than sadness, the way numbness becomes your shield. I know, because I carried it too.

My name is David Boje. I’m not just another coach trying to sell you something—I’m a Vietnam veteran who’s been where you are. I walked through the fire, the anger, the burnout, the divorce, the loneliness. I fought battles overseas, and I fought battles inside myself.

But here’s what I can tell you—there is a way out. There is a way through. And it starts with restorying your life.

The Descent: The War That Never Ends

I was just a kid when I went to Vietnam, thrown into a war that changed me before I even understood who I was. Out there, survival was all that mattered. You don’t think, you don’t feel—you just act. You shove it all down because feeling might get you killed.

But when I came home, the war came with me.

PTSD. The rage. The sleepless nights. The way a sound could send me right back into the jungle. I was stuck in a story I couldn’t escape—one of survival, conflict, and isolation.

Then came Agent Orange. The slow poison that seeped into my body, giving me cancer years later. The anger grew. I felt betrayed by the very country I fought for. I lashed out. My marriage fell apart.

I was lost.

Burnt out. Alone.

I didn’t think there was a way back.  David Boje.

Read David Boje's story of Coming Back from Agent Orange and Founding Perview.

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Healing Trauma: Horses, Stories, and Veteran Transformation

David Boje's narrative details his personal struggles with trauma from the Vietnam War, Agent Orange exposure, and subsequent life challenges like bankruptcy and divorce. He recounts his journey towards healing and the development of a unique therapeutic approach utilizing horses and sand trays to help veterans, first responders, and their families overcome their own traumatic experiences. Boje emphasizes the limitations of traditional PTSD treatments like Repeated Exposure Desensitization and advocates for his experiential, love-based method that encourages self-acceptance and rewriting painful stories. Ultimately, he seeks financial support to expand his training program and certify others in his innovative healing techniques

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RECOMMENDED READING

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